ws very little about the other. That’s the main reason why very few first encounters are ever earth-shattering events. Instead, they are likely to be awkward fumblings, lacking in quality but functional in their use and embarrassing for both parties on reflection; often stopping potential relationships dead in their tracks.

Like all good experiences, the impact of sex is often diminished by expecting too much of it, or relying upon it to prove our love for each other. But s

For most men, sex is done for its own sake – an act to be engaged in and enjoyed, with or without love, with or without commitment and with or without emotional connection. Men see sex as a way to establish a positive love relationship and to identify their ideal soulmate. They have to be shown this love through sex to be convinced of the woman’s intention. For her part, a woman knows sex doesn’t prove a man loves her, so she wants to be chosen, valued, wooed and loved first, usually by romantic actions like talking and touching, long before having sex. Otherwise, she may feel sexually ‘used’ (i.e. “He’s only interested in me for sex.”).

The differences between the two genders come head to head with the next stage, getting to actual intercourse. At the start of any new love-making process, the man is likely to be worried that he will do something wrong or that the woman will change her mind and stop him from proceeding. This fear is likely to prompt him to progress as rapidly as he can towards intercourse to avoid losing his opportunity, thereby making him appear less romantic and uncaring. However, hoping for romantic affection, the woman may try to discourage this unseemly haste by slowing his progress, which might not only be frustrating, if he is desperate for release, but the guy could interpret her actions as a reluctance to proceed.

Awkward Fumblings
Yet, even if she desires to have sex, the faster he goes the more unprepared and unlubricated she will be, especially if he is inexperienced and has trouble finding her sensitive G-spot. She may not even be able to increase her arousal if she cannot show him where it is, especially if she does not know it herself! The result of these first encounters is that, all too soon, the love-making is over with at least one party feeling somewhat frustrated and disappointed.

In these first encounters, neither party may experience much of what he/she wanted or imagined because each knows very little about the other. That’s the main reason why very few first encounters are ever earth-shattering events. Instead, they are likely to be awkward fumblings, lacking in quality but functional in their use and embarrassing for both parties on reflection; often stopping potential relationships dead in their tracks.

Like all good experiences, the impact of sex is often diminished by expecting too much of it, or relying upon it to prove our love for each other. But s

tic actions like talking and touching, long before having sex. Otherwise, she may feel sexually ‘used’ (i.e. “He’s only interested in me for sex.”).

The differences between the two genders come head to head with the next stage, getting to actual intercourse. At the start of any new love-making process, the man is likely to be worried that he will do something wrong or that the woman will change her mind and stop him from proceeding. This fear is likely to prompt him to progress as rapidly as he can towards intercourse to avoid losing his opportunity, thereby making him appear less romantic and uncaring. However, hoping for romantic affection, the woman may try to discourage this unseemly haste by slowing his progress, which might not only be frustrating, if he is desperate for release, but the guy could interpret her actions as a reluctance to proceed.

Awkward Fumblings
Yet, even if she desires to have sex, the faster he goes the more unprepared and unlubricated she will be, especially if he is inexperienced and has trouble finding her sensitive G-spot. She may not even be able to increase her arousal if she cannot show him where it is, especially if she does not know it herself! The result of these first encounters is that, all too soon, the love-making is over with at least one party feeling somewhat frustrated and disappointed.

In these first encounters, neither party may experience much of what he/she wanted or imagined because each knows very little about the other. That’s the main reason why very few first encounters are ever earth-shattering events. Instead, they are likely to be awkward fumblings, lacking in quality but functional in their use and embarrassing for both parties on reflection; often stopping potential relationships dead in their tracks.

Like all good experiences, the impact of sex is often diminished by expecting too much of it, or relying upon it to prove our love for each other. But s

y as he can towards intercourse to avoid losing his opportunity, thereby making him appear less romantic and uncaring. However, hoping for romantic affection, the woman may try to discourage this unseemly haste by slowing his progress, which might not only be frustrating, if he is desperate for release, but the guy could interpret her actions as a reluctance to proceed.

Awkward Fumblings
Yet, even if she desires to have sex, the faster he goes the more unprepared and unlubricated she will be, especially if he is inexperienced and has trouble finding her sensitive G-spot. She may not even be able to increase her arousal if she cannot show him where it is, especially if she does not know it herself! The result of these first encounters is that, all too soon, the love-making is over with at least one party feeling somewhat frustrated and disappointed.

In these first encounters, neither party may experience much of what he/she wanted or imagined because each knows very little about the other. That’s the main reason why very few first encounters are ever earth-shattering events. Instead, they are likely to be awkward fumblings, lacking in quality but functional in their use and embarrassing for both parties on reflection; often stopping potential relationships dead in their tracks.

Like all good experiences, the impact of sex is often diminished by expecting too much of it, or relying upon it to prove our love for each other. But s

ated she will be, especially if he is inexperienced and has trouble finding her sensitive G-spot. She may not even be able to increase her arousal if she cannot show him where it is, especially if she does not know it herself! The result of these first encounters is that, all too soon, the love-making is over with at least one party feeling somewhat frustrated and disappointed.

In these first encounters, neither party may experience much of what he/she wanted or imagined because each knows very little about the other. That’s the main reason why very few first encounters are ever earth-shattering events. Instead, they are likely to be awkward fumblings, lacking in quality but functional in their use and embarrassing for both parties on reflection; often stopping potential relationships dead in their tracks.

Like all good experiences, the impact of sex is often diminished by expecting too much of it, or relying upon it to prove our love for each other. But s

ws very little about the other. That’s the main reason why very few first encounters are ever earth-shattering events. Instead, they are likely to be awkward fumblings, lacking in quality but functional in their use and embarrassing for both parties on reflection; often stopping potential relationships dead in their tracks.

Like all good experiences, the impact of sex is often diminished by expecting too much of it, or relying upon it to prove our love for each other. But sex is not a substitute for anything else. It is merely one key aspect of love, and does not replace love itself. With practice, any couple can benefit from sex and have great emotional experiences. But they will gradually realise that sex is a complex act involving certain actions, sensitive emotions, disparate expectations, communication, knowledge and consideration of others – elements which will take a long time to master, especially when we are starting from zero base and lack social and sexual skills.