n because your ego is saying, “I want it, like this”. It’s like tunnel vision, only witnessing it in one way. We become so obsessed with getting what we want, and how we want it. So obsesIn our relationships we often feel that we are not getting what we want. But if we were to examine each of these relationships clearly, we would find that we were getting exactly what we want, but not in the form we wanted it.

A great example of this is affection. Say you want affection from your lover, and believe the only way you can be given affection is through touch. So you start grumbling that your lover is not affectionate, complaining and comparing them to someone, some ideal that gives you affection just the way you like it (which is always what you didn’t get as a child). The truth is, they are giving you affection, because there are so many other ways it can arrive, but you become blinded to those other forms of affection because your ego is saying, “I want it, like this”. It’s like tunnel vision, only witnessing it in one way. We become so obsessed with getting what we want, and how we want it. So obses

want, but not in the form we wanted it.

A great example of this is affection. Say you want affection from your lover, and believe the only way you can be given affection is through touch. So you start grumbling that your lover is not affectionate, complaining and comparing them to someone, some ideal that gives you affection just the way you like it (which is always what you didn’t get as a child). The truth is, they are giving you affection, because there are so many other ways it can arrive, but you become blinded to those other forms of affection because your ego is saying, “I want it, like this”. It’s like tunnel vision, only witnessing it in one way. We become so obsessed with getting what we want, and how we want it. So obses

touch. So you start grumbling that your lover is not affectionate, complaining and comparing them to someone, some ideal that gives you affection just the way you like it (which is always what you didn’t get as a child). The truth is, they are giving you affection, because there are so many other ways it can arrive, but you become blinded to those other forms of affection because your ego is saying, “I want it, like this”. It’s like tunnel vision, only witnessing it in one way. We become so obsessed with getting what we want, and how we want it. So obses what you didn’t get as a child). The truth is, they are giving you affection, because there are so many other ways it can arrive, but you become blinded to those other forms of affection because your ego is saying, “I want it, like this”. It’s like tunnel vision, only witnessing it in one way. We become so obsessed with getting what we want, and how we want it. So obsesn because your ego is saying, “I want it, like this”. It’s like tunnel vision, only witnessing it in one way. We become so obsessed with getting what we want, and how we want it. So obsessed with feeding the hardened Ego what it wants, when it wants it, and in the form it wants it, that we have no appreciation for what we are given, and we start complaining.

People become as you treat them. If you are always walking around moaning that you are not getting what you want, in the form you want it, then you can be guaranteed that your partner will withdraw from you.

If you don’t appreciate what you’ve got, you lose it. By walking around complaining that something is missing, you are actually manifesting loss. If you don’t see that you are getting what you want, just in a different form, you are always going to come at your relationship with complaints, “This is missing”, “That is missing”, “This is not good enough