t YOU, and the standards you are willing to set to eventually find the right person for you. If you show no respect to the women in your life, by simply using them in a convenient way, they cannot show you any love or respect in return, and you will always feel inadequate, dissatisfied and unhappy. I believe you know the answer already, which is why I am surprised that you arQ. Is it wrong to sleep with multiple partners? I'm 16 and I ended my relationship with my ex last month because it's summer time and I don't have time to be tied down but we still have sex regularly. We're not a couple, and never will be again, we just like to do each other. Now I met this girl at my summer job and we hit it off great. We've been going out together on the weekends and have a 'friends with benefits' situation. I'm having sex with both girls, but not going out with either. So is that unfair or wrong in any way? I always use protection. I am just seeking opinions not judgement. (Rick)

A. There are a few issues here which should concern you. First, you say you ended one relationship but is still sleeping with the girl for your own benefit. Would you say that is just using her?

When something is ended, it should be allowed to rest while the parties move on to something else. She is being prevented from forming a new relationship, even though you say you will 'never be a couple' again. It is likely that she believes there is still a chance with you, if you are still sleeping together, regardless of what she might openly say. Learn to move away from relationships when they are done. That is a sign of maturity and self respect. It also prevents unnecessary complications.

Second, by sleeping with two women at the same time, it does not say much about your own values and respect for them because it is not about the two women or anyone else. It is about YOU, and the standards you are willing to set to eventually find the right person for you. If you show no respect to the women in your life, by simply using them in a convenient way, they cannot show you any love or respect in return, and you will always feel inadequate, dissatisfied and unhappy. I believe you know the answer already, which is why I am surprised that you are

the weekends and have a 'friends with benefits' situation. I'm having sex with both girls, but not going out with either. So is that unfair or wrong in any way? I always use protection. I am just seeking opinions not judgement. (Rick)

A. There are a few issues here which should concern you. First, you say you ended one relationship but is still sleeping with the girl for your own benefit. Would you say that is just using her?

When something is ended, it should be allowed to rest while the parties move on to something else. She is being prevented from forming a new relationship, even though you say you will 'never be a couple' again. It is likely that she believes there is still a chance with you, if you are still sleeping together, regardless of what she might openly say. Learn to move away from relationships when they are done. That is a sign of maturity and self respect. It also prevents unnecessary complications.

Second, by sleeping with two women at the same time, it does not say much about your own values and respect for them because it is not about the two women or anyone else. It is about YOU, and the standards you are willing to set to eventually find the right person for you. If you show no respect to the women in your life, by simply using them in a convenient way, they cannot show you any love or respect in return, and you will always feel inadequate, dissatisfied and unhappy. I believe you know the answer already, which is why I am surprised that you ar

girl for your own benefit. Would you say that is just using her?

When something is ended, it should be allowed to rest while the parties move on to something else. She is being prevented from forming a new relationship, even though you say you will 'never be a couple' again. It is likely that she believes there is still a chance with you, if you are still sleeping together, regardless of what she might openly say. Learn to move away from relationships when they are done. That is a sign of maturity and self respect. It also prevents unnecessary complications.

Second, by sleeping with two women at the same time, it does not say much about your own values and respect for them because it is not about the two women or anyone else. It is about YOU, and the standards you are willing to set to eventually find the right person for you. If you show no respect to the women in your life, by simply using them in a convenient way, they cannot show you any love or respect in return, and you will always feel inadequate, dissatisfied and unhappy. I believe you know the answer already, which is why I am surprised that you ar

er, regardless of what she might openly say. Learn to move away from relationships when they are done. That is a sign of maturity and self respect. It also prevents unnecessary complications.

Second, by sleeping with two women at the same time, it does not say much about your own values and respect for them because it is not about the two women or anyone else. It is about YOU, and the standards you are willing to set to eventually find the right person for you. If you show no respect to the women in your life, by simply using them in a convenient way, they cannot show you any love or respect in return, and you will always feel inadequate, dissatisfied and unhappy. I believe you know the answer already, which is why I am surprised that you ar

t YOU, and the standards you are willing to set to eventually find the right person for you. If you show no respect to the women in your life, by simply using them in a convenient way, they cannot show you any love or respect in return, and you will always feel inadequate, dissatisfied and unhappy. I believe you know the answer already, which is why I am surprised that you are seeking 'opinions', especially if you don't expect any of those opinions to be negative.

You seem very sensible and articulate, but low in self confidence, because you probably boost your ego with having the friendship of the two women at the same time. It gives you a sense of control and power. But true self empowerment comes with self love. You really have to start loving yourself first and appreciating the valued person you are before you can even begin to truly love and appreciate others.

You also have to ask yourself if the way you behave with women just now is the best way you can live your life. More important, is that also the way you would like your sister or female relatives to be treated? Your answer to this question will answer your first question, as well as tell you who you really are and where you're heading.