getting sick. In this case I can accept his policing with the kindness in which it is rendered. In the case of the skinny sister who said to her WLS sister, “I thought that surgery was suppoThere is something about being public with weight loss surgery that makes others believe they have permission to become volunteer “Food Police” monitoring our every bite when it comes to eating after gastric bypass. We can't stop the constructive criticism of others, particularly when it comes to something as controversial as WLS. But we can arm ourselves with some effective coping skills.

I don’t believe there is one perfect coping skill for all of us when it comes to the food police. But here are some strategies I’ve found for dealing with self-appointed food monitors.

Identify the motive: When my husband asks, “Are you sure you want to try that?” his motive is genuine concern. He has seen me get sick and he hopes to help me avoid getting sick. In this case I can accept his policing with the kindness in which it is rendered. In the case of the skinny sister who said to her WLS sister, “I thought that surgery was suppos

ing after gastric bypass. We can't stop the constructive criticism of others, particularly when it comes to something as controversial as WLS. But we can arm ourselves with some effective coping skills.

I don’t believe there is one perfect coping skill for all of us when it comes to the food police. But here are some strategies I’ve found for dealing with self-appointed food monitors.

Identify the motive: When my husband asks, “Are you sure you want to try that?” his motive is genuine concern. He has seen me get sick and he hopes to help me avoid getting sick. In this case I can accept his policing with the kindness in which it is rendered. In the case of the skinny sister who said to her WLS sister, “I thought that surgery was suppo

ing skills.

I don’t believe there is one perfect coping skill for all of us when it comes to the food police. But here are some strategies I’ve found for dealing with self-appointed food monitors.

Identify the motive: When my husband asks, “Are you sure you want to try that?” his motive is genuine concern. He has seen me get sick and he hopes to help me avoid getting sick. In this case I can accept his policing with the kindness in which it is rendered. In the case of the skinny sister who said to her WLS sister, “I thought that surgery was suppo

od monitors.

Identify the motive: When my husband asks, “Are you sure you want to try that?” his motive is genuine concern. He has seen me get sick and he hopes to help me avoid getting sick. In this case I can accept his policing with the kindness in which it is rendered. In the case of the skinny sister who said to her WLS sister, “I thought that surgery was suppo

getting sick. In this case I can accept his policing with the kindness in which it is rendered. In the case of the skinny sister who said to her WLS sister, “I thought that surgery was supposed to make you stop eating and look at you with the food!” her motive is to hurt and belittle.

Acknowledge or Ignore the “citation”: It has taken time but these days if my husband mentions something I’m eating I am able to pause and consider his feedback. Today I can say, “You know, sweetheart, you are right. I don’t need to get sick tonight.” This wasn’t easy at first but now it seems natural. As many of us struggle on the long road after WLS it is a good idea to have a few well-intentioned police to kindly help keep us on track. Find your supporters and let them know how they can be helpful because nobody should go this route alone.

In the case of skinny sister our friend could have acknowledged the comment saying “I appreciate y